Facing and Managing Change
Rarely is change comfortable unless we are the one initiating the change. Change,
whether forced or unexpected, will change the dynamic of our lives. There are times in our
lives that change is forced upon us without our input or agreement.
Q: What significant change do you feel life has forced upon you?
Q: How did you deal with the change?
Sometimes men won’t change unless the pain is great enough.
“We’re comfortable where we are at unless
we feel something is broken.” – Steve Beason
In life, we frequently come up against the fact that we need change in:
Sometimes change is welcomed. Other times we can fuss about changes wanted by
others if we don’t see the need for the change. Sometimes we do not see things as broken,
or the state of “brokenness” may be subject to opinion. At other times, we just live with the
situation and will not change, because men can be stubborn.
Q: Have others suggested that there are areas of your life you need to change? If so, what?
Q: How did you respond to their suggestion?
Q: Do you recognize any areas of your life that need change? If so, what are they?
Often times when we are involved with things like pornography we know that it
causes pain and destruction. If we can see the pain that is coming, we can divert ourselves
before we get there. If that approximately 60% of men in the church are struggling with
pornography, we know something needs to change. Pain is an indicator that change needs
to take place.
Managing Personal Change
- Have a plan
- Get counsel
- Do your homework
- Avoid procrastination
- Put away things that prevent change
- Establish reasonable goals
- Make success measurable
- Don’t give up
- Re-assess along the way
- DON’T GIVE UP!
Review this list in respect to your life, and begin to formulate a plan: specific steps
and timelines for action. For example, who can you work with as a mentor? What
homework can you find to do? What barriers need to be removed to progress
forward? Consider how to measure yourself in these areas.
Q: What things do you need to put away that are preventing change?
Q: What are some reasonable goals you can set in your plan?