What does healthy sexuality mean in a society like ours that is inundated with sex
and sexual images? Where do we begin to lift the fog of confusion so that we can build
healthy sexual boundaries and not be consumed with the perversion that is so rampant and
This really is a tough subject to cover in one session or even in this workbook. I
would like to encourage you to sit with a life coach, pastor, or counselor to help you define
and build healthy sexuality.
What is Sexuality?
Webster's Dictionary defines sexuality
- The sexual habits and desires of a person
- the quality or state of being sexual:
- The condition of having sex
- Sexual activity
- Expression of sexual receptivity or interest especially when excessive
There are many ways to tackle this subject, but in this course we are going to focus on few
items of sexuality.
Sexuality is Not Lust
- Pleasure – God designed and created sex. God knows how society and the devil have
twisted this gift into a violation of the boundaries He placed on it.
Q: Are you “out of bounds” in regards to your sexuality? What does that look like?
- Connection – Sex is intended to bring a man and a woman together as one in the bonds
of marriage. Sexual boundaries are often violated in pursuit of pleasure. Intimacy is a form
of being connected.
Q: How do you connect with people you are close to? (e.g. family, spouse, children)
- Boundaries – We must be careful what we allow ourselves to be exposed to. The media,
movies, or magazines will give an unrealistic view of sexual expectations. It is good to sit
with a pastor or Christian counselor to discuss sexuality because our understanding is
Lust is a selfish uncontrolled desire to get pleasure for yourself. Lust dictates how
you respond to a sexual situation or sight. Having the thought is not necessarily sin, it’s
what you do with the thoughts that can lead you to sin. In its root, pornography is about
Q: How do you handle the thoughts of lust?
Q: What will you need to do or change in regards to lust?
Lust is where our battle is and where we need to fight. Sin will take you farther than you
want to go and cost you more than you’re willing to pay.
Q: How do you think you could begin to embrace your own sexuality?
Q: How can you separate your sexuality and make it holy unto the Lord?