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Day 1 - Getting Started

Begin your Journey to Freedom by understanding addiction, and how choices can help you out of it.

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Day 1
Getting Started

A sickness begins with the exposure of coming into contact with a person or object that is already carrying the disease. What are you being exposed to on a daily basis? What you are fed with grows within you. What you allow your mind to dwell on will produce ac- tions. We are all exposed to many good things, but also many negative things every day, but we have a choice of what to do with both the good and the bad things.

You can’t run from what is inside you. Many men have exposed themselves to so much garbage over time, and it’s determining their thoughts, choices, and actions. It’s time to start cleaning out the garbage. As of July 1, 2014, Focus on the Family listed on their website:

Five Stages of Addiction Early exposure. Most guys who get addicted to porn start early. They see the stuff when they are very young, and it gets its foot in the door.
Addiction. Later comes addiction. You keep coming back to porn. It becomes a regular part of your life. You’re hooked. You can’t quit.
Escalation. After a while, escalation begins. You start to look for more and more graphic porn. You start using porn that would have disgusted you when you started. Now it excites you.
Desensitization. Eventually, you start to become numb. Even the most graphic, degrading porn doesn’t excite you anymore. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again but can’t find it.
Acting out sexually. At this point, many men make a dangerous jump and start acting out sexually. They move from the paper and plastic images of porn to the real world. (McConnell and Campbell 2014)

Pornography is degrading to men. According the the dictionary degrading means:

  • To lover in dignity or estimation; bring into comtempt.
  • To lower in character or quality; debase.
  • To reduce (someone) to a lower rank, degree, etc,; deprive of office, rank, status, or title, especially as a punishment.
  • To reduce in amount, strength, intensity, etc.
As a pastor, I have heard from countless men that have had an addiction to pornography. They never knew how they got so low, or did the things they did. They never thought that pornography would take them to such degrading levels.

  • Pornography is driving the demand for prostitution and exploitation into the main stream of society.
  • Pornography is a marketing tool for the trafficking and exploitation of women and children.
Men are better than that. With what men are exposed to every day, there is a choice on what to do with both the good and the bad. Identify what you are exposed to, or being exposed to:

Positive: Negative:

What are you going to do with the good things that you are exposed to?
What are you going to do with the negative and destructive things you are exposed to?