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Workbook day 8 (PDF content)

Day 8
The Vat

The vat is the sum of all the things that has happened to us in our lives. Things we have seen, heard, and experienced are all found in our vat.

“We don’t live with the facts of our lives, but with the interpretation of the facts of our lives.“ – Steve Beason
Q: What does it mean that, “We live with the interpretations of the facts of our lives?”

“For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known.” 1 Corinthians 13:12 (NASB)
“I don’t live with the facts of my life, but I live with the interpretation of the facts of my life.” – Dr. Richard Dobbins
“Our feelings, intentions, options, choices, and actions are a result of the stories we tell ourselves.” – Steve Beason
How does this relate to us as men? Take a look at your past and all the experiences you have had. As men, our sexual emotions are very charged. Physical abuse, sexual abuse, witnessing abuse, or trauma, all influence how we look at, deal with, and live out our sexuality
“Our ‘vat lies’ can forcefully skew our views of sexuality.” – Steve Beason
Lies and negative experiences still affect men today.

Q: What negative or dirty filters do you have that hinder your marriage or relationship?

Q: What lies have become “toxic factories” in your life especially in relation to sex?

Q: What can you do to clean out your relational vat?

Q: Can you describe how your lies might lead you to pornographic websites or solicit prostitution?

Make a list of the negative experiences, and with the help of the Lord, the Bible, a pastor, counselor, or trusted friend, determine how will you reinterpret those experiences?