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Day 13 - What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?

Move from yourself to yourself with others.

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Day 13
What does A Healthy Relationship Look Like?

“Healthy relationships have to do with what we give away, not just with what we get.” - Steve Beason

Healthy relationships need to have a foundation based on love, not attraction, lust, or even simply feelings. Often our standard of what a relationship looks like stems from the relationship of our parents, or in other cases, our single parent.

Q: What was/is the relationship of your parent(s) like?
Q: Do you recognize any similarities between what you saw in them and what you see in yourself?

What we know about ourselves and the way our relationships are established was formed when we were children. What you see as important becomes important, and those things form the basis of your relationships.

Q: What is important about yourself and the relationships you have now?

Another way our relationships are influenced is through the images and portrayals of love we are exposed to. The view of love given to us by movies, TV, and media often distract from what love truly is. Love is self-less, not selfish.

Q: What does this mean to you?
Q: Is your expression focused on the other person, or centered on your own desires?

“Men are built to be providers, protectors, and givers of love.” – Steve Beason
Q: The verses in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 are a great foundation and set a standard for love. Love is patient, love is kind. Is your love patient? Is your love kind?
Q: It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Are you an envious person of other people’s relationships?
Q: Are you filled with pride?
Q: Love does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking. Is your love honorable?
Q: Does your love only seek to please yourself?
Q: Love is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Are you angry?
Q: Do you keep a tally of the mistakes you or your spouse make?
Q: Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Is your love based on truth? Can you communicate truthful feelings with your partner?
Q: Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. How will you apply these powerful verses to your life of love?
Q: What will you do to re-capture the things you used to do that won the heart of your spouse?

“It’s no longer about me, it’s about we.” – Steve Beason
A true love relationship is when what is important to one person is important to the other and vice versa.

Selfish   Self-less
Focused on his needs
His plans
Requires her to serve him
Demands his pleasure
  Focused on our needs
Their plans are both important
They serve each other
Seeks shared pleasure

Q: Consider yourself and your relationships. What changes do you desire to make about how you love?